Words of affirmation for him

Does your husband speak the words of affirmation love language? Or have you simply been searching for words of encouragement for a man you love? These words of affirmation examples are perfect for situations ranging from wanting to express your love, to encouraging him when he’s stressed or down. 

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The term words of affirmation comes from Gary Chapman’s must-own book The 5 love languages.

If you’re not familiar with the book, the idea is that all of us speak a love language. This is how we both express love and how we receive love.

As well as words of affirmation, the love languages are

• physical touch
• quality time
• gifts
• acts of service

To put into context – for my birthday, my best “present” would be doing something with my husband.

Yes, quality time is my main love language.

My husband would love a massage.

No prizes for guessing that his is physical touch.

When you don’t speak someone’s love language, you don’t always hear it when someone is expressing love to you.

For example, imagine you’re having a hard time and your mother comes over, and rather than talk about your problems, she washes all your dirty dishes and does your laundry.

You might see that as a critique of your housework skills but she might be showing her love through acts of service.

So you need to know what love language you speak and what your husband speaks if you want to have a marriage where both people feel loved.

I never felt loved by my first husband as my primary love language used to be physical touch – and he was not affectionate to me at all.

It wasn’t until years later when I read Chapman’s book that I realized he did love me – just his way of showing it was not in a language I understood.

(Don’t know what your love language is? You can do the quiz here).

Why use words of affirmation?

So what does this all mean if your husband’s love language is words of affirmation?

Well, it means your I love yous and Thank yous will not be enough for him to feel truly loved.

You need to be detailed and specific.

You need to give compliments.

You need to verbalize those things about him that until now you’ve just been thinking.

But sometimes it’s super hard to think of the right things to say.

That’s why you’ll find here some words of affirmation for him for a variety of situations – from just because to when he’s having a hard time.

However, the best thing about these words of affirmation for him is that they’re not just restricted to those of you whose husband’s speak this love language.

All men love to have you tell them just how much they mean to you – all those reasons why you love them, their bodies, the things that they do, and how proud of them you are.

In fact, one of the indicators of marital happiness is that a couple has five positive interactions for every negative interaction (source).

Using these words of affirmation can help boost those positive interactions!

So express these words of love and encouragement to your man and see how he blossoms.

Words of affirmation to express your love

What is the sweetest thing you could say to your husband?

In my opinion it’s a simple affirmation of your love for him that isn’t tied to anything specific.

If you’re wanting to express your love, keep it romantic and sweet. Focus on your unconditional love for him, that he’s your soulmate and that being with him just makes everything better.

Examples

1. I love you so much
2. Sometimes my heart hurts with how much I love you
3. You’re my best friend
4. There’s no one else I would rather be with
5. Every day with you is special
6. I love waking up with you
7. I love going to bed with you
8. You mean everything to me
9. You’re perfect for me
10. I’m so lucky to have you
11. I’m the luckiest woman in the world
12. Do you think anyone else has a marriage as good as ours?
13. I don’t just love you. I really like you too
14. Marrying you was the best thing I ever did
15. You make every day great
16. You’re the best husband in the world
17. You’re my favorite person in the world
18. You make me feel safe
19. You take good care of me
20. You make me feel loved
21. I want you
22. I need you
23. You’re an awesome husband
24. I would be lost without you
25. We make a great team

Words of affirmation about his appearance

We live in an appearance-centered society. I know I’m not shallow and yet I also know that I feel more confident and self-assured when I feel like I look good.

I feel even better when somebody else notices.

Think about it – can you remember a time when you spent a lot of effort getting ready for a special occasion, you walked out to the living room, and your husband didn’t even comment?

Or worse – when you were forced to ask how you looked, he answered that you looked fine?

Remember that feeling and vow not to ever do the same thing. Instead, use some of these words of affirmation focused around his appearance.

Examples

1. You look hot
2. You’re looking delicious today
3. I love how that [insert clothing item] looks on you
4. Love your butt
5. I could just look at you all day
6. Have you been working out?
7. Your muscles look bigger
8. You look strong
9. You were the best looking guy in the room
10. You’re the hottest man I’ve ever had
11. I love your new haircut
12. Your eyes are beautiful
13. Looking at you makes me want to get naked
14. That shirt brings out the color of your eyes
15. Love that new shirt!

Words of affirmation about making love

Men can be more insecure than we can imagine, and one place this insecurity can make itself known is in relation to the bedroom. If this is the case, your positive affirmation (as well as your obvious enthusiasm and enjoyment) can be crucial.

Even if your husband is super confident in bed, every man likes to be praised on his prowess.

These examples of words of affirmation focused on the bedroom work well in both situations. (And if you’re comfortable with it, use more explicit language than I’ve used here).

Examples

1. I love making love with you
2. I want to make love to you
3. You’re the best lover I’ve ever had
4. I love it when you touch me there
5. You make me feel so good
6. You make me want you so badly
7. You feel amazing
8. You’re so good in bed
9. You’re such a good kisser
10. I love your touch

Words of affirmation to show your appreciation

One of the worst things you can do is to take someone for granted. It’s a quick recipe which results in him feeling resentful and you feeling complacent.

Showing your appreciation for the one you love is so important. It shows you notice what he does for you – and that you’re grateful for it.

Here’s appreciation centered words of affirmation:

Examples

1. I’m so grateful for you
2. You did a great job on [insert task]
3. Thank you so much for doing that
4. Thank you for fixing [insert thing]
5. Thank you for making that appointment
6. I like how you sorted that out
7. I really like how you [insert thing]
8. I appreciate all you do for me
9. You’re such a hard worker
10. You work so hard for us
11. I love that I can trust you to take care of things
12. The [thing he did] looks amazing!
13. Thanks for helping me with [insert thing]
14. I felt really supported when you helped me earlier
15. I love how caring you are with me / the kids / the furbabies

Words of affirmation when he’s going through a stressful time

When things are tough, it can be hard to think of the right thing to say. You want to be encouraging and supportive without slipping into advice giving or “just get on with it” type conversations.

Remind him that he had what he needs inside himself. If you’ve been together a while, you’ll know of tough times he’s beaten in the past. Remind him of these also, and also the strategies he used then, if they’re applicable.

Any of these words of affirmation examples will also work in this situation.

Examples

1. I’m so proud of you
2. You can do this
3. This is tough, but you’ve done tough before and you’ve survived
4. I believe in you
5. You can get through this
6. You’ve got this
7. I know you can figure this out
8. You’ve got what it takes to make this work
9. You’re doing the right thing
10. You’ve made the right decision
11. You can fix this
12. I so respect how you’re handling this
13. You’ve got what it takes
14. I trust you
15. You’ve done it before; you can do it again (our personal favorite!)

If your husband has the words of affirmation love language and you’re looking for some examples of words of affirmation for him, these are sure to hit the right spot.

If you’re simply looking for words of encouragement for a man you love, this will work for that also (you might also like these heartwarming words to describe your husband).

Whether it’s just because, to compliment him, to boost him in the bedroom, or to support him when he’s going through a tough time,  try out these words of affirmation today!