Is physical touch your or your spouse’s love language? Do you want to increase the amount of touch in your marriage? If so, check out these physical touch love language ideas for some awesome new ways to make your bond stronger.
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If your love language is physical touch, then you’ll know that the best way for you to feel loved is to physically connect with your husband. That feeling of closeness makes you feel safe and secure.
Yet if physical touch isn’t the love language you speak, you may misinterpret it when your husband wants to get close to you, thinking that sex is the end game.
Annoyance can result, which is potentially damaging for your relationship.
But physical touch goes beyond making love. Gary Chapman, who wrote The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, notes that “When you reach out with tender touch, you create emotional closeness” (source).
Emotional closeness is something we all need in our marriages.
So if learning to speak the love language of physical touch sounds like something your relationship needs, here are some simple suggestions.
Luckily for you, of all the five love languages, physical touch is probably the easiest to do!
TAKE THE PHYSICAL TOUCH LOVE LANGUAGE CHALLENGE
So for those of you who may be struggling with the physical touch love language, here’s a challenge.
There are three sections below that deal with incidental touching, at home physical touch and physical touch date ideas.
To increase the amount of physical touch in your relationship, set yourself a goal of trying the following:
- one additional incidental physical touch a day
- one additional at home physical touch a week
- one additional physical touch date a month
(Not sure what your love language is? See here for links to this quiz and two others that will change your life).
INCIDENTAL PHYSICAL TOUCH LOVE LANGUAGE IDEAS
Incidental physical touch refers to those affectionate actions that you can sneak in on the back of something else.
Remember the rule – increase the amount of touch by one every day!
Here’s my faves:
- Kiss him goodbye
- Kiss him hello
- Give him a hug from behind when he’s working in the kitchen
- Touch him gently as you walk past
- Go for a walk and hold hands as you do so
- Wash his back for him when you’re both in the shower
- Squeeze his butt
- Cuddle up on the couch
- Wake up a few minutes early, roll over, and lie with your head on his chest
- Have him lie with his head in your lap as you’re watching television
- Scratch his back gently
- Hold his hand when you go for long drives
AT HOME PHYSICAL TOUCH LOVE LANGUAGE EXAMPLES
At home physical touches are those which require a little more effort but can still be done at home. Your goal is to increase the number of these in your marriage by one a week.
- The super obvious one here is to get busy between the sheets.
- Want to try something other than making love? If it’s a nice night, grab a blanket and go lie close to each other under the stars
- Get wet and warm – jump in the bath together for a long, relaxing soak
- Alternatively, he can get in the bath by himself and you can wash his hair
- Get him to lie down on the couch and give him a foot massage
- Lay down a towel on the bed, strip down to your underwear, and give him a back massage
PHYSICAL TOUCH LOVE LANGUAGE DATES
This category refers to dates which have a specific physical touch focus.
Aim to have at least one of these dates a month.
Now a caveat- Some of them don’t involve you giving the physical touch. However I have included them as I know many physical touch people love these specific activities.
- Get a professional couples’ massage. Choose a place which has two therapists so you can be done in the same room
- Get a body scrub. This is an alternative to a massage if you’re feeling a bit sluggish or just in the mood for something different. Again, this works best if you are both in the same room
- Go out for dinner but sit side by side, preferably in a booth
- Go ten pin bowling and take every chance you can to high-five. Add to the excitement by inviting couple friends so you and your husband can be on the same team
- Go to an upmarket movie theater with couches instead of seats so you can snuggle up close
- Attend an outdoor concert or theater performance and get cozy on a blanket
- Sign up for a pottery wheel throwing class and attempt to re-enact the scene from Ghost
- Go to a theme park and grip onto him for dear life as you ride the roller coaster
- Sign up for ballroom dancing lessons
- Create an old fashioned games day and invite your friends to meet you down at the park. As well as those old faves like the sack race, and egg and spoon race, you can get close to your honey in the three legged race, and wheelbarrow race
Physical touch is an important aspect of any relationship.
Even if it’s not your primary love language, both you and your husband can benefit from working to increase the level of touch in your marriage.
Set yourself small goals – an increased incidental physical touch once a day, a focused at-home physical touch session once a week and a more intense physical touch date once a month, and watch your relationship satisfaction increase!