250 get to know you questions

No more awkward conversations and strained silences- try these 250 get to know you questions to learn more about the new people in your life.

Whether you’re at a party, talking to your boss’s husband’s sister’s girlfriend’s son, or on that first date with the one of your dreams, finding a topic of conversation that isn’t about the weather or what they have planned for the weekend can be a challenge.

You want the conversation to flow but more importantly, you want to get to know this person. So fear no more of conversational deserts. With these get to know you questions, you’ve covered for a myriad of situations.

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Simple questions to get to know someone

Small talk has to be one of my most-hated things. In our culture, after someone’s name, it’s most common to ask someone what they do for a job, which frankly seems to be setting people up for judgement.

And while that question does feature below, these simple get to know you questions will help grease the conversational wheel and help you make connections in a positive way.

1. Where were you born?
2. What time were you born?
3. What’s the story behind your name?
4. Where did you grow up?
5. What are your parents’ names?
6. What are your sibling’s names?
7. Who were you closest to in your extended family growing up?
8. What geographical location do you feel most connected to?
9. What’s your favorite sport to watch?
10. How would your friends describe you?
11. How would your parents describe you?
12. Do you have any children?
13. Do you have any pets?
14. What did you want to be when you were a child?
15. How do you have your coffee?
16. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
17. What was the last movie you went to?
18. What’s the last book you read?
19. What’s the last series you watched?
20. What type of music do you listen to?
21. Do you have any nicknames?
22. Do you like to be surprised?
23. How many pairs of sneakers do you have?
24. Are you introverted or extroverted?
25. Who knows you the best?
26. What do you like to do in the evening?
27. What do you do on an average weekend?
28. Are you an early bird or a night owl?
29. Do you prefer breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner?
30. What exercise do you do?
31. How do you de-stress?
32. What’s your favorite scent?
33. What’s your favorite cuisine?
34. What’s your favorite meal?
35. Are you allergic to anything?
36. Who are the special people in your life?
37. What do you do for work?
38. What got you into your career?
39. What are you looking forward to right now?
40. What are your guilty pleasures?
41. What’s your biggest time-waster?
42. What’s your favorite snack?
43. What’s your favorite day of the week?
44. What’s your favorite season?
45. Are you a spender or a saver?
46. What book changed your life?
47. What do you always leave the house with?
48. What’s the first thing you do when you walk in the door of your home?
49. Do you have any tattoos?
50. What’s something you love that other people hate?

Questions to get to know someone romantically

These get to know you questions are perfect for people who have just started dating and are super curious about each other and how they show up in relationships (you might want to try these flirty questions too).

1. What do you first notice about someone?
2. What personality traits are important to you in a partner?
3. What’s the best date you’ve ever been on?
4. What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?
5. What date experience have you not yet had that you would love to?
6. What would make you never contact someone again after a date?
7. Would you let any of your family members set you up with someone?
8. What’s something you wondered about me when we met?
9. What are your quirks?
10. What would your exes all say about you?
11. What do you look for in a partner?
12. What is your best quality?
13. What is your worst quality?
14. What’s the longest relationship you’ve ever been in?
15. How did your longest relationship end?
16. What lessons have you learned from a bad breakup?
17. What’s your biggest weakness in relationships?
18. What do you enjoy about being in a relationship?
19. Have you ever dated someone your friends and / or family did not like?
20. What real-life relationship do you most admire?
21. How do you resolve a disagreement?
22. Do you think couples should lock in date nights or just see what happens?
23. How important to you is alone time?
24. What makes you jealous?
25. How important is physical affection to you?

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Get to know you questions for couples

Even once you’ve become a couple, there’s still much to learn about each other and how you show up in your relationships and in life. These get to know you questions will help make you more connected.

1. What’s important to you in a relationship?
2. What side of the bed do you sleep on?
3. What’s your favorite time of day to get intimate?
4. What kind of activities would you like to do together?
5. What’s your love language?
6. How do you handle conflict?
7. What patterns have you noticed in past relationships?
8. What makes me different from the other people you’ve been with?
9. What was it about me that made you know you wanted to be with me?
10. What’s your daily routine like?
11. What do you like to do when you get home from work?
12. What are your relationship non-negotiables?
13. How do you show you love someone?
14. Do you believe in soulmates?
15. What’s your favorite date night meal?
16. In what ways are we compatible?
17. What do I do that excites you?
18. What’s your favorite thing to talk about together?
19. What chores do you like to do?
20. What chores do you hate to do?
21. What causes you to lose trust in someone?
22. What does being a good partner look like to you?
23. What makes you a good partner?
24. What makes you feel cared for?
25. What makes you feel secure?

Fun get to know you questions

These fun questions can help gain deeper insight into each other.

1. What was your most embarrassing moment?
2. What would your pet like me to know about you?
3. What’s your strongest irrational fear?
4. What’s the most random thing that ever happened to you?
5. What is the most ridiculous nightmare you’ve ever had?
6. If you could meet anyone in the world, who would it be?
7. If you lived in the 1800s, what would you have done for work?
8. What’s your favorite condiment?
9. If you had to turn into an animal, which one would you pick and why?
10. What’s the best prank you ever did?
11. What’s the most awkward situation you ever found yourself in?
12. If you were stuck at one age, what would it be?
13. What’s a skill you’ve never been able to master?
14. What’s your strangest family tradition?
15. What word did you mispronounce as a child?
16. What useless talent or skill do you have?
17. What’s your favorite item of clothing?
18. What’s the best idea you’ve ever had for an invention?
19. Where’s the creepiest place you’ve ever visited?
20. After waking up, what’s the first thing you do in the morning?
21. What’s the strangest place you’ve ever slept in?
22. What job would you be most likely to be fired from?
23. What bad luck turned out to be good luck?
24. What would your perfect day look like?
25. What’s more important – intentions or actions?
26. What does fun look like for you?
27. If you could play any musical instrument, what would it be?
28. What form of public transport do you hate the most?
29. What have you never grown out of?
30. If you could click your fingers and acquire any skill, what would you pick?
31. What fictional character would you most like to be like?
32. What movie do you know the most lines to?
33. What weird things did your family do that you thought were perfectly normal at the time?
34. If you could be someone else for a day, who would you pick and why?
35. What’s the luckiest thing that ever happened to you?
36. What would you be most likely to be arrested for?
37. What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever bought?
38. When do you act the most childish?
39. What about you is stereotypical?
40. What is the sound of your childhood?
41. If you could do something every day, what would it be?
42. What’s the first concert you went to?
43. If you had to pick, which one of your pets, past or present, would you turn into?
44. What’s the strangest hobby you’ve tried?
45. What unpaid skill that you have would you like to monetize?
46. What children’s movie traumatized you?
47. What advice do you give but never keep yourself?
48. What’s your favorite place in your hometown and why?
49. What lie that your parents told you had the most impact when revealed?
50. If you could be an anonymous benefactor of a charity, which one would you pick?

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Interesting questions to ask to get to know someone

Curiosity is key to building connection and these interesting questions to ask to get to know someone will help stimulate an interesting conversation for sure.

1. What’s your favorite hobby?
2. If you could collect anything in the world, what would it be?
3. What is your most prized possession?
4. What’s your favorite childhood memory?
5. What would be your top 10 bucket list items?
6. What are you passionate about?
7. What makes you feel better when you’re down?
8. What makes you cry?
9. What’s the best thing you ever bought?
10. Who was the first person to believe in you?
11. Do you have a personal motto?
12. What are your top skills?
13. What’s the best vacation you’ve been on?
14. What could you not live without?
15. What crazy belief did you have as a kid?
16. What unusual job do you think you’re excel at?
17. What do you love spending money on?
18. What’s your favorite piece of art that you own?
19. If you could relive one moment in your life, what would that be?
20. What do you think was the best invention ever and why?
21. Who’s the worst boss you ever had?
22. What’s the worst job you’ve ever done?
23. What’s the stupidest injury you ever received?
24. What’s your favorite way to start your day?
25. What would you do if you won the lottery?
26. What’s the scariest thing that’s ever happened to you?
27. What fillings would you put in your favorite sandwich?
28. What was the most common comment made on your report card when you were at school?
29. What would you put in your ultimate burger?
30. What would the opposite of you be like?
31. Who’s your hero?
32. What’s the best gift you ever got?
33. What do you think about when you wake up in the middle of the night?
34. What subject could you give a presentation on with no preparation?
35. What “luxury” item could you not live without?
36. What do you find yourself judging people for?
37. When do you feel out of place?
38. What trend do you not understand?
39. What “signs” do you look for?
40. What’s your mantra for life?
41. What makes your heart melt?
42. What would you do with a billion dollars?
43. What’s the worst thing that ever happened to you at work?
44. What three events have had the most impact on your life so far?
45. What small things give you pleasure?
46. What’s the most memorable encounter you’ve ever had with someone?
47. What in your life is 10/10?
48. How has your life changed in the last year?
49. What mistake would you like to fix?
50. If you could see the future, would you do so?

Questions to get to know someone deeply

These questions are designed to get deep into the core of a person. Ask these and you’ll end up knowing them better than you know yourself!

1. What makes you get up in the morning?
2. Who do you admire the most and why?
3. What story inspires you?
4. What is your greatest achievement?
5. What author had the most impact on your life?
6. What’s an experience you think everyone should have?
7. What’s something that you will never do again?
8. What beliefs about yourself and life have you have to unlearn?
9. What are you the proudest of?
10. What’s your best personality trait?
11. What’s your worst personality trait?
12. What life decision has made the most impact on your life so far?
13. What do you think about the most?
14. If you could go back in time and erase an experience or decision you made, what would it be?
15. What makes you happy?
16. What makes you feel flat or sad?
17. What’s your core beliefs about how the world works?
18. What kind of advice do people ask you for the most?
19. What’s the most difficult lesson you’ve learned?
20. What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned?
21. Can people change?
22. What makes you unique?
23. What are your rules for living?
24. What are you grateful for in your life?
25. What motivates you?
26. What’s the biggest challenge in your life that you’ve overcome?
27. What’s the biggest risk you ever took and did it pay off?
28. What would your 15 year old self think of the life you have now?
29. If you could do anything new, what would it be?
30. What’s the best advice you ever got?
31. What’s the worst advice you ever got?
32. Where do you see yourself in five years?
33. How do you define success?
34. What goal in your life are you determined to achieve?
35. What have you created that you’re the most proud of?
36. What area of your life would you like to improve?
37. What’s something you would love to learn how to do?
38. What do you take for granted?
39. What dreams have you not fulfilled and what has stopped you?
40. What unconventional beliefs do you have?
41. What major belief changes have you had in your life?
42. What’s your biggest regret?
43. What’s the best thing about getting older?
44. What would you like to change about yourself?
45. What are the key ingredients in your dream life?
46. What lifestyles changes would you like to make?
47. What lifestyle changes have you made that have impacted your life significantly?
48. What would you hate to lose?
49. What do you wish would never change?
50. What advice would you give to your future self?

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These get to know you questions are sure to save you from any awkward silences. Bring them out the next time you want to get the conversation humming.