75 flirty questions to ask a guy

Want to add some zing to your conversations or texts? Try these flirty questions to ask a guy.

Flirting. Even thinking about it can make you smile, because there’s something super cute about it. It’s playful, it’s fun, and it’s also a way of showing your interest in someone.

Now before you think as well that flirting is strictly in the domain of people who like each other but are yet to be in a relationship, let me say that flirting in long-term relationships is also very important.

It can become easier than you’d expect or want to have many of your conversations boil down to the groceries you’ve just run out of and why there is no clean washing.

And life’s too short for that.

So whether you want to show that guy you think he’s hot, or you want to add a little zing to your relationship with your boyfriend or spouse, these flirty questions to ask a guy have you covered.

(These truth or dare questions for couples are also heaps of fun).

What makes flirty questions, well, flirty?

Funnily enough for an article which has written questions, much of what makes flirty questions flirty is the manner in which they are asked.

For example:

1. You are confident
2. You ask the questions with genuine interest -so not while staring at your phone
3. You maintain eye contact when you ask them – without staring fixedly, which is creepy
4. You listen attentively, mirroring back their words – again don’t take this too far
5. You smile
6. You touch him lightly – his reaction will tell you what you need to know
7. You orientate your body to face him
8. You be yourself -if you’re not a hair swinging, eyelash batting kind of girl, don’t start that now.

That being said, flirty questions are not designed to trip someone up or get them to think to deeply (save that for these deep questions).

Instead, they’re designed to create an easy, flowing, fun conversation that makes it pretty clear you’re interested in them – and again, this can be achieved as easily with your boyfriend or spouse as someone you are getting to know.

(Still struggling? Try these flirting tips).

Flirty questions to ask a guy you’re getting to know

You’ve met this guy, you like him, and you’re getting to know each other. These flirty questions help get the interest piqued. You can also use them as a helpful screening tool before you get too deep.

(Question 22 is a great one for that. I had an ex once who said all his relationships ended because the women were, quote, “psycho.” I really should have thought more deeply about what that was saying about him before getting involved).

1. What do you first notice about someone?
2. What did you first notice about me?
3. What personality traits are important to you in a partner?
4. What personality traits of mine have you noticed?
5. Describe your dream date to me
6. Where’s the next place you’d like to go to on a date?
7. What’s something you wondered about me when we met?
8. What is something you’re still wondering about me?
9. What makes you go weak?
10. What’s your relationship must-haves?
11. What real-life relationship do you most admire?
12. Do you like to be touched?
13. Where do you like to be touched?
14. What’s something about you that not many people know?
15. What’s on your bedside table?
16. What’s something about you that you think would surprise me?
17. What’s something you’d love to ask me?
18. What’s your go-to when you feel bad?
19. What’s the number one thing you love to do in your free time?
20. What do you think of me?
21. Am I the kind of woman you’d normally get involved with?
22. What about me is different to other girls you’ve known?
23. Why did your last relationship end?
24. How do you let someone know you’re interested in them?
25. What’s your favorite thing about women?
26. What do you like to do first thing in the morning?

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Flirty questions to ask a guy over text

If you’re wanting to ask a guy flirty questions over text, you want them to be ones that have him wondering – wondering about you, thinking about you, dreaming about you.

Because he can’t see you, there’s that element of mystery and his imagination can know no limits.

I mean, you could be on the couch in your sweatpants wearing no makeup but he is not to know.

Try texting these flirty questions and see what response you get.

(And remember, if you don’t get the response you were hoping for, remind yourself that you also don’t know what he is doing. He could be in a super important meeting with no way to read your message, much less respond.

1. What do you think I’m doing right now?
2. What do you wish I was doing right now?
3. Guess what I’m wearing today
4. Guess what I’m not wearing today
5. What do you think I’m thinking about right now?
6. What’s something you’d like to do with me that we haven’t done yet?
7. What did you think when we kissed for the first time?
8. What did you think when you first saw me?
9. What do I do that makes you smile?
10. What do I do that makes you laugh?
11. Want to know something you do that always makes me smile?
12. Close your eyes and imagine us together. What are we doing?
13. How did you feel before you messaged me that first time?
14. How are you feeling now? (to ask after the above)
15. What would you like me to wear tonight?
16. What kind of touch to you enjoy?
17. What’s the most sensitive part of your body?
18. If I was to make you hard by text, what would I need to do?
19. What would you like me to say when we’re in bed together?
20. What’s the first thing you want to do when we see each other next?
21. I just bought something I think you’ll like. Want to know what it is?
22. Where’s the craziest place you’d like to make out?
23. I dreamt about you last night. Want to know what happened?
24. Guess what time together I’m remembering right now?
25. Next time we’re together, who would you like to make the first move?

These questions are also good to text when you’re in a long-distance relationship. If that’s you, you might also like these long distance relationship questions.

Flirty questions to ask your boyfriend or spouse

As I mentioned above, there’s still plenty of space for flirting in a long-term relationship. As certain things are taken as given in this section (mainly the fact you get it on together), they’re moving into the dirty / flirty category.

These questions may also work via text or in those early stages – use your judgement here!

1. What would you do if I kissed you right now?
2. What kind of lingerie do you find most attractive?
3. What’s your favorite part of my body?
4. If you had to seduce me right now, what would you do?
5. What gets you in the mood the quickest?
6. Would you like me to give you a massage?
7. …A massage with a happy ending?
8. If you could only kiss me in one place, where would it be?
9. You smell really good. What are you wearing?
10. Oooh, have you been working out?
11. How would you describe me in five words?
12. What was I doing the last time I gave you butterflies?
13. What do you like doing the most of in bed (other than sleeping!)
14. Do you want to know the last time you took my breath away?
15. What about us keeps us interesting for you?
16. What do I do that drives you crazy (in a good way)?
17. Want to go have some fun?
18. What outfit do you like the most on me?
19. What makes you feel desirable?
20. Want to know a fantasy I was having about us?
21. What do you think was our best ever date?
22. What’s something you’ve previously thought was off-limits that you’d like to try with me?
23. What do I do that makes you feel loved?
24. If we spent all day in bed, what would you like to do?
25. Would you like me to be naughty or nice tonight?

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These flirty questions to ask a guy are the thing to get the butterflies going in the both of you!

(If you like them and want more, check out all my questions for couples).