Skip to Content

50 conversation starters for couples

Create interesting conversation around the dinner table or on your next date night with these conversation starters for couples!

A couple being intimate while having a conversation starter for married couples

Round here we’re big on conversation that connects – and one of the ways we do that is by asking each other questions.

And I’m not talking about, “Did you wash my running gear?” or “What time will dinner be ready?” – though we do of course ask those too – but rather questions that reveal our thoughts, feelings and values about life.

You might also like: Questions for couples.

Some of the most fun questions to ask are would you rather questions because they force you to make choices and also to explain your thinking.

These 50 conversation starters for couples take that idea of choices and explanations and sometimes pop in a moral dilemma or two for some super fun and interesting conversations. Heck you could do one a week and it would almost cover the whole year!

These questions are fun to use on a road trip. You can also check out these road trip questions.

Conversation starters for couples

A couple both holding a cup of coffee asking each other these conversation starters for couples

If you could be any political leader in history (including today), who would you be and why?

You’ve been kidnapped. Your kidnapper will release you if I perform certain “favors” on them. I decide to do them in order to free you. How do you feel about it?

Circumstances dictate that one of our parents must come and live with us for the rest of their days, which is likely to be at least five to ten years. Which relative do you select? What problems do you imagine occurring? What possible benefits might there be?

If you could be a tree, what tree would you be and why?

If your life was a novel, what would the theme be?

All of your exes end up at one party together. What is one thing each would say about you? What is the one thing they would all think in common about you?

Out of all the trivial things that can happen in our day to day lives (think someone taking your parking spot, a meal order being messed up, someone pushing ahead in line, or cutting you off in traffic), which one makes you the most angry?

Aliens have taken over the world and are wiping out humans at a frightening rate. You have to argue with them why you should be spared. What’s your argument?

If you could create a collection of anything in the world, what would it be of and why?

What meals could you make with what is in our pantry right now?

We’ve lost our jobs and have no money left. There is no food in the cupboards. One of our children is sick. Is it okay to steal food to feed them?

You have six months left to live. During this time you will still be well enough to do whatever activities you desire. Money is also not an option. Tell me everything you would do in that six months.

You’re stuck in your home for the next 30 days. You can’t buy anything except for food, which is delivered to you. You cannot walk out of your front gate. Describe what do you do over the next 30 days.

Tell me of five choices you made in your life that seemed to be small at the time but ended up having significant consequences.

Maggot, worm, fly or spider…. You have to be transformed into one. Which and why?

Imagine that you have suddenly acquired five new, totally impractical skills. What are they?

You win $5,000,000 but you are not allowed to spend the money directly on yourself or your home. It cannot be banked or invested. You have three months to spend it. What do you do with the money?

If you could win any contest in the world, what would it be and why?

You are going to be genetically spliced with an animal of your choice. You will have all of the characteristics of that animal – good and bad. Which one do you pick and how do you use these traits now in your day to day life?

A personal chef will now cook you lunch every day for the rest of your life. Only issue is, she can only make one meal. What is it?

For every dinner for the rest of your life you must add one of the following ingredients: tomato sauce, olives or chilies. Which do you select?

You can go back in time and buy shares in any business before they go big. What company do you buy shares in and why?

What’s your favorite quote or saying and why?

Your children inherit your three best qualities. What qualities are they?

What improvements would you make to our house? Start off with the smallest and move up to the biggest.

You acquire the skills of a trade (builder, carpenter, plumber). Which trade are you now a master at?

You have to grow your own vegetables for the rest of your life, but you are only allowed to have five varieties. What do you grow and why?

Tolstoy’s quote from Anna Karenina says, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” What do you think are the common ingredients of all happy families?

You can only listen to one album for the rest of your life. Which one do you select?

You can turn into one of your pets (past or present). Who do you become and why?

Congratulations! You just won a lifetime supply of [what]?

You’re getting chased by a herd of wild animals. What are the animals and how do you save yourself?

What are the positive and negative aspects of jealousy?

You are transformed into a statue and put on display. How would you like to be positioned and where would you like to be placed?

Describe the best version of you to me. How do they spend their days?

Describe the worst version of you to me. How do they spend their days?

You find yourself in the most awkward social situation that you possibly could have imagined. What is happening and who is there?

Outside food and shelter, what five items would you want to have with you if you were stranded on a desert island?

You just broke a world record. What was it for?

You suddenly have the magical power to undo any world event. Talk me through what you would undo and what the consequences (both negative and positive) you imagine would come from such an action.

You suddenly are inserted as a character on a tv show. Which tv show do you go into and what storyline do you influence?

You have been sent to prison for a crime you didn’t commit. What do you do about it? How do you spend your time in prison?

You wake up with the sudden ability to play any musical instrument you desire. What is it? (But wait – there’s more). Now you can take your new found musical talent and join any band, group or orchestra you want. Who do you join?

Which conspiracy theory do you think is most likely to be true?

Describe your dream, money is no object, vacation to me.

You discover that a member of your family has committed a serious crime but no-one was hurt. Do you tell the police? What about if someone died as a result? What if you don’t like this member of your family? Does this shape your opinion?

You’re given money to start your own business. What business would you create?

What are the three pieces of advice older people often give younger people that are frequently ignored BUT happen to be true?

Imagine that we have the technology capable of doing anything we desire for this exercise. Describe all the ways in which you would automate our home.

The end of the world as we know it is about to occur. What will you do to prepare and what will be your goals in the first week, month, year and five years post event?

These conversation starters for couples are a super fun way to spend a date night, road trip, or even relaxing time at home together. Let me know your favorite one in the comments!

You might also like: Date night questions for couples.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.