150 questions for teens

Want to build stronger connections with your teens while learning more about them? Ask these questions for teens.

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Ah, teens. Having raised two myself, as well as having been a high school teacher for 20 years, I’ve probably had more experience with them than many.

Teens are fantastic and fascinating. Their hormones are all over so place that one minute they come across as a two year old having a tantrum, the next minute as a two hundred year old, full of wisdom. It helps to remember that they’re growing and learning and they’ll get through the other side eventually.

Teens can become way less talkative than they used to be and sometimes it can seem like you’re trying to get blood out of a stone when you ask them a question and you get a grunt in return.

These questions for teens are designed to help you connect. They move from simple, with the favorite things questions (always handy to know for surprises), through to the deep stuff, with thought provoking questions that will give you a better understanding of their beliefs and values.

They make a great activity for family fun night, a mother daughter date or a mother son date.

“Favorite things” questions for teens

Get the inside scoop on what your teen is loving right now with these favorite things questions for teens.

What’s your favorite board game to play?
Where’s your favorite place to go to relax?
What’s your favorite clothing brand?
What’s your favorite quote?
Who’s your favorite band?
What’s your favorite form of exercise?’
What’s your favorite thing to do in the weekend?
What’s your favorite brand of sneakers?
What’s your favorite joke?
What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
What’s your favorite saying?
What’s your favorite family meal?
What has been your favorite family holiday?
What’s your favorite scent?
What’s your favorite Christmas tradition?
What’s your favorite memory?
What’s your favorite snack?
What’s your favorite sport to watch?
What was your favorite childhood book?
What’s your favorite thing in our house?
What’s your favorite restaurant meal?
What’s your favorite animal?
Which one of all our pets has been your favorite?
What’s your favorite thing to do when you feel sad?
What’s your favorite way to destress?

(You might also like these favorite things questions).

Hypothetical questions for teens

Find out the answers to your burning “what ifs” with these hypothetical questions for teens.

If you won the lottery, how would you use to to create your dream life?
If you could meet anyone dead or alive, who would it be?
If you could be famous for something, what would it be?
f you could switch places with any person, dead or alive, real or fictional, for a day, who would it be?
If you were dropped on a deserted island, what five items would you bring?
If you had a million dollars but had to spend it in a month, what would you spend it on?
If you could pass a law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be?
If you had enough money that you didn’t have to work, how would you spend your time?
If you had to choose a new names for yourself, what would it be?
If you could stop aging at any age, what age would you choose?
If you could pick anywhere to go for a family vacation, where would you go?
If I had to do anything you wanted me to, what would it be?
If you were allowed to do anything you wanted, what would it be?
If you could wake up tomorrow fluent in another language, what would it be?
If you could make any recipe to perfection, what would you make?
If you could time travel 5 years into the past, what advice would you give yourself?
If you could do-over your childhood, what would you want to be different?
If you could solve one global problem, what would it be?
If you were a mythical creature, which one would you be?
If you could pick any mentor, who would it be?
If you could redecorate your room, how would you do it?
If you could attend any concert in history, which one would it be?
If you could create your ultimate birthday party, what would you do?
If you could change one thing about you that you feel is holding you back, what would it be?
If you could live your perfect day, what would it look like?

Questions for teens about relationships

Healthy relationships have a huge impact in our wellbeing. Find out what relationships are important to your teen and why with these relationship questions for teens.

Who do you think you’ll be friends with for the rest of your life and why?
What new friends have you made this year?
Who do you feel closest to in our extended family?
How do you give support to family members?
Who’s your best friend right now?
What qualities are important in a romantic partner?
What makes a good friend?
Are you happy with the number of friends you have?
Are you happy with the quality of those friendships?
What does a successful long term relationship look like?
In what ways are grandparents better than parents?
When do you know it’s time to end a relationship (romantic or friendship)?
What’s something a friend would do that would make you not want to be friends anymore?
Who would you turn to if you couldn’t talk to me about something?
What do you do when someone you love hurts you?
Do you believe in soul mates and true love?
How do you show that you care for someone?
What is important about a sibling relationship?
How important is family to you?
How do you find making friends?
What’s your love language?
What’s one thing you should never do to someone important to you?
If there anyone you wished you could spend more time with?
If you could spend more time with them, what would you do?
What makes a good parent? A great one?

Questions for teens about school

School is a common experience for many of us, yet our individual experience within that school can vary hugely. Find out what your teen thinks about all things school related with these questions for teens about school.

If you could create your own school, what subjects would be taught and why?
What’s a life skill you think should be taught in schools?
Who’s your favorite teacher and why?
What do you like to do during breaks at school?
What do you most frequently get praised for at school?
What do you most frequently get in trouble for at school?
What’s been the most challenging thing about school for you?
What makes a good teacher?
What makes a good student?
What do you think about timetables?
If your school became famous for something, what would it be?
What’s the best project you’ve ever been involved with at school?
What’s your favorite subject at school?
What teacher do you dislike the most and why?
What is the most useless thing you’ve learned in school?
What’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever learned at school?
How do you like to work when you’re at school?
What activities (co or extra curricula) would you like to get involved with at school?
Is school success necessary for life success?
If you could control the school hours, what time would you start and end school and why?
What surprises you most about school?
What bores you at school?
What makes you motivated to learn at school?
Is school important?
If you were a teacher, what subject would you teach and why?

Questions for teens to get to know them better

If you’re feeling like you don’t know your teen as well as you used to when they were younger, try these questions for teens to get to know them better.

What’s your best part of the day?
What’s your least favorite part of the day?
What’s your first memory?
What is the best gift you’ve ever been given?
What animal represents you the best?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever given?
What makes you excited to get up in the morning?
What do you love about your appearance?
What is your best quality?
What choices that you made have had the most positive or negative effect on your life?
What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you that you feel comfortable sharing?
What achievement are you the most proud of?
What good habits do you have?
What bad habits do you have?
Describe your mood right now using a shape.
What 5 words would you use to describe yourself?
Who is your biggest role model?
What 3 things can you not live without?
What makes you afraid?
What excites you the most about the future?
What scares you the most about the future?
Where would you like to be in five years?
Where would you like to be in ten years?
Where would you like to be in twenty years?

Thought-provoking questions for teens

Challenge your teen’s thinking with these thought-provoking questions for teens.

What do you think came first – the chicken or the egg – and why?
What does success mean to you?
What does it mean to be married?
How important is someone’s looks?
When is a bird in the hand not worth more than two in the bush?
Can money buy happiness?
When is it okay to lie?
Is being popular important? Why / why not?
If you could time travel to one day in history, which day would you visit and why?
How do you think the universe was created?
What do you think is the purpose of life?
What do you think is the key difference between your generation and mine?
Is there too much or not enough technology in the world?
Do you think aliens exist? Why / why not?
Does God exist? Why / why not?
What would be useful for younger generations to understand about older generations?
What’s the hardest job in the world and why?
Are setting goals or building habits more important? Why?
What are the things all human beings should have access to?
How do you think the world will end?
What happens after we die?
When does a child become an adult?
What do people need to be happy?
What’s more important, motivation or discipline?
Do you think people are more collaborative or competitive?