Practicing self-care when you’re a busy woman sounds like an impossibility. But building self-care into your life is one way of resetting the stress, focusing on yourself as a person, not a list, and toning down that frustration that can at times simmer underneath everything you do. And regardless of how busy you are- it can be done with these ideas for self-care for busy women.
Sometimes it feels as though life is a giant to-do list. And while I’m all for having lists, setting targets, and creating goals, on more than one occasion I’ve felt as though from the moment I’ve woken up, until the moment I’ve gone to sleep, it’s all been about checking boxes.
There is a solution to this however: that magical word self-care. Bringing self-care into your life is one way of resetting the stress, focusing on yourself as a person, not a list, and toning down that frustration that often simmers underneath everything you do.
However not all self-care is created equal when you’re a busy woman. How many of us have time, for example, to spend an hour in the morning reading motivational books, practicing yoga and journaling?
In order to make self-care a part of our busy lives we need to do two things. One – use what we already do and add a self-care element, and two, use the margins of our time and incorporate self-care into those.
Using that framework, below are ways in which self-care for busy women can work, broken down into the key parts of the day.
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Quick self-care tips for the morning
Practice shower meditation
Most of us have a morning shower, so this is an example of adding a self-care element to something you’re already doing. This idea is on Pinterest, but unfortunately I can’t reference the site as when you click on it, it takes you to either a yoga school or a site selling meditation chairs. But it works as follows –
Imagine that as you wash your hair and your body, you’re washing away the stress and negativity you’re currently feeling. Enjoy the feeling of the water on your skin. Really massage your scalp, the way hairdressers do. Look at the water swirling down the plughole and see all your problems disappearing with it.
Use a beautiful body wash
This is something else you can do in the shower. Do your skin and the environment a favor and use an organic body wash which has a scent you love. If you haven’t used natural products before, be aware that they don’t froth or foam up in a way you may be used to, and that’s actually a good thing, because it’s chemicals which create all those bubbles. You can work around this by using a loofah or a body brush to get a good lather going.
Regardless of what you buy, scent is the key, so experiment until you find one that works for you. As you wash yourself, breathe in the smell slowly and enjoy.
Have an unplugged breakfast
There are two parts to this. Firstly is breakfast. Breakfast is an important meal and one we often pay little care or attention to. However it sets the tone for your day nutritionally AND mentally. Experimentation is key here as well, but I can’t go past oats. Every morning, I have oats, almond milk and blueberries, which has been prepared by my wonderful husband the night before.
Pinterest has got a slew of recipes for oats- I have some here on my breakfast Pinterest board. Your breakfast needs to be something that you look forward to because you love the taste of it and that also nourishes and sustains you.
Once you’ve nailed your perfect breakfast, create a ritual around eating it. By that I suggest you do nothing else when you’re eating, except to concentrate on the taste. If your household permits, then attempt to do this in silence as well. Silence is crucial to letting our brains create rather than simply receive.
Engage with personal growth content
Reading personal growth content not only provides you with great ideas to try but can also spark off your thinking around related topics. There’s a world of great podcasts out there. My number one would have to be Gretchen Rubin’s Happier. If you don’t know where to start, then check out Hello Peaceful Mind for a great list.
This is an example of using the margins of your life to add a self-care element. As you travel to work, take the time to connect with one podcast and get ideas and inspiration. If you work from home, then make finishing listening to a podcast the trigger to move into your start-work ritual.
Create a start-work ritual
At times the start of the work day can feel a bit all-over the place. You sit at your chair, check your emails, and next thing you know you’re down the rabbit hole. By having a ritualized start to every work day, you feel calmer and more in control.
I start my work day by making a cup of coffee, unpacking my bag, starting my computer. I skim over my calendar so I know what meetings or other commitments I have and then I review my task list. I select the one job that would have most impact on my day and begin that. I get to work around 7.15 am and I don’t check my email until 8.00am. This means I don’t get distracted by someone else’s emergency until I have focused on my own work needs.
Think about how you can build in a predictable routine to the start of every day that keeps you calm and centered. If you want both inspiration and how to create your own ritual, read How to create a start-work ritual.
Quick self care tips for the afternoon
Slow your breathing
Sometimes we start to feel stressed but have no way to burn off that adrenaline. Here is a simple breathing technique you can incorporate anywhere, at any time, that will help calm you. Sitting at your desk – even in the bathroom if you’ve snuck there for some time out – any place works.
Imagine you are looking at a triangle and then practice doing the following:
- Breathe in to the count of three (moving from the bottom left to top)
- Hold to the count of three (moving from top to bottom right)
- Breathe out to the count of three (moving from bottom right to bottom left)
- Repeat this until you feel calm, extending the length of each inhalation, hold, and exhalation.
Create a stop-work ritual
Whether you have a fixed stop time, or leave when you’re done, creating a stop work ritual is another way to bring self-care into your busy day. Much like the start-work ritual, I suggest something simple like: reviewing tomorrow, reordering priorities, clearing your desk (I often clean my desk as well, as I’m I bit obsessive that way), and packing your bags.
Make a connection
Social self-care is another key element that is often removed from our lives because we are too busy. As you leave your office, take a moment to connect with at least one colleague by asking them how their day went, or by simply saying goodbye. If you work by yourself, consider sending a message via text or social media.
Seek out the beautiful
This is another little tip for using the margins effectively. On the drive home, make it your mission to see five beautiful things, or five things that create a feeling of warmth or wonder within you. This simple exercise will help you focus on the present, rather than the day you have just had.
Take time to transition
All too often when we get home from work we go into full-on homemaker mode- starting dinner, doing laundry, or sorting through paperwork. Decide that you will do one thing for 15-20 minutes when you get home before you launch into your “second job.” This could be something like walking the dog, reading a magazine, or coloring in with this coloring book and these gel pens.
Quick self-care tips for the evening
Watch the sunset
Either through a window or out in nature, try to catch a glimpse of the sunset. Remind yourself that whatever kind of day you’ve had, the sun is setting on it now. Even if the day was rough, appreciate the colors that streak across the sky. Beauty can be found in every single day. Tomorrow a new day will begin with all its possibilities.
Write an entry in your win journal
I love win journals for a fresh take on a gratitude journal. I first mentioned them here, when I talked about how to use self-care when you’ve had a bad day. Just one simple thing that you conquered that made you feel great is all you need. A monthly calendar spread is awesome because then you get all that month’s wins at a glance.
Have a cup of tea
Once the dinner has been eaten and the dishes done, take the time to relax with a cuppa. If you don’t like black tea, you can have green tea, fruit tea… whatever works for you. When I was little I remember my mother and grandmother sitting down after dinner and talking with a cup of tea and it always being a peaceful and relaxing time. Now my husband and I have one every evening, and we really enjoy this simple ritual.
Light a scented candle
We’re hard-wired to enjoy flames and scent, so lighting a candle (this one is organic, vegan and kosher!) gives you the best of both worlds. Have the candle burning and every now and again, take a break from what you are doing and focus on the flickering light.
Enact your nightly ritual
I discuss fully my nightly ritual in Step 13 of 15 ways to live a life of simple satisfaction. This ritual has me looking forward to going to bed every single night. I make sure my room is tidy, get into bed and onto my acupressure mat, read then reflect on what went well in the day before turning out the light. Whatever steps you take, enact them in the same way every night so your body picks up the cues that you’re on the wind-down to sleep.
Visualize your best life
Just before you go to sleep, take a moment to imagine what your perfect day would look like. Think about what you’d be doing and who you’d be doing it with. Closing the day this way helps put into perspective all the things you do that will one day manifest your most-desired reality.
To sum up these self-care tips…
When we feel like we’re on a never-ending treadmill of to-do lists mixed with taking care of other people’s needs, it’s no wonder that we start to get sharp and short with those we love so much. Incorporating self-care into our busy days can really help ground ourselves better, by giving us small boosts and breaks that fuel our souls.
You can do this. Just build on those things you are already doing and cherish those small pockets of dead time, such as your commute, that you can put to use in another way – a way that makes time for you.
If any of these self-care tips for busy women have worked for you, shout out in the comments. If you have other good ideas then please share these as well!
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